What Is This World Becoming?
In terms of technological advancement, the world is getting better. What was thought of as an impossible action 5 or 10 years ago now look seamless. Communicating with everyone from all over the world now seems like a no-brainer.
You can chat, see, and communicate with anyone and do so many more. Yeah, this is in the area of technological advancement. But in other areas, the world is really getting messed up. Messed up in a lot of ways but I want to focus on just one area.
It is in the area of getting married. Yes, getting married. I really want to ask this question as to what the world has made marriage become. The unnecessary traditions that have been imported into this glorious occasion.
Marriages now must start with pre wedding pictures and these pictures must flood social media. This was supposed to be something like an option but with the number of people participating these days, it seems more like something we must all do before getting married.
The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
“Verily, among the words people obtained from the prophets are this: If you feel no shame, then do as you wish.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 3296
As if that was not enough, marriages have now been converted to festivals. Yes, festivals. People spend days just to tell the world that two people are now legally allowed to spend the rest of their lives together. Wow, what an irony. People now make marriages a matter of competition.
How many people would be at my wedding than the last wedding? That is what people now contend for. The idea that marriage is supposed to be holy and an action that must be praised for the main reason has now been made to become something like a herculean task.
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said:
“The marriage which is most greatly blessed is the one which is the lightest in burden [expense]. However, if people are well catered for, without extravagance and show, there is no problem with that either.”
(Reported by Bayhaqi)
The world has made actions not speakable much easier than marriage. People can simply get sex where they want for a lesser price than getting married. Well then, what option do we leave for the world to choose? The easier option of course. People now no longer see value in marriage. They say, well, it is just to procreate, why then must I marry when I can procreate without having to go through all the hassle?
However, this is the fault of you and I. Yes, the fault of all of us that makes marriage more competitive. Mr A did this in this marriage, are you not going to do the same? We share pre wedding pictures all around as if they were officially married. Wow, what a world we now live.
Immoral activities are now considered not too bad. Well, others also do it. Yes, but not so shamelessly publicly. Yes, you have the free will to choose to be bad, but at least have the decency to be private about it and do not give others a reason to do what you did.
The world can be better and the world would be better, but we need to understand that morality must take its place in the world and what is bad should be seen for what it is, not because everyone now does it.
We are informed by God Almighty:
“…”Not equal are the evil and the good, although the abundance of evil might impress you.” So fear Allah, O you of understanding, that you may be successful.”
Qur’an Chapter 5 Verse 100
Marriages are now made much difficult for people who are willing and ready all in the name of the unnecessary traditions that have been added. Traditions that in no way add to the values of marriages. We must take action now and learn to know what is right from what is wrong.
Marriages should not be glorified as a one-day event, a lot more lies ahead. People now even take loans to feed people, people who really do not care about the marriage. Well, just a few might. And you can organize a simple event for those few.
“But waste not by excess: for Allah loves not the wasters.”
Quran Chapter 6 Verse 141
The world is watching us and what we do would always serve in our favour or against us one day. Be careful.
Thanks and God Bless.